Nov 29 2008
Out of sight, out of mind? Or, no news is good news! Are these idioms ture?
I don’t believe these are true statements! I would go so far as to say that they are completely false, most of the time! If I don’t hear from a friend of mine for a while I know something isn’t right! It may just be that they are really busy and down about their life, or it could be more serious, either way something is a miss. I know I tend to retreat when I am going through a rough patch. The last thing I want to do is bring my problems to my friends, I have on the other hand relied to heavily on my lovers in this department, which I think might be my downfall as far as a long-term thing is concerned. Maybe I would be better to spread out the bad news around instead of always dumping on the one person who is closest to me, anyone have any thoughts on this? I have always thought that honesty in a relationship was the only way to go, however I haven’t had any luck keeping a partner for any length of time, so maybe I’m way off the mark here.
Jamas
Stumble It!
I’m like you, I tend to burrow underground when the going gets tough. I have a hard time talking to anyone because I get it in my head that nobody really cares, so why bother……just my internal defense mechanism.
As for honesty, if you lose partners because you would rather be straightforward and the like, then it would appear that it’s just the other person’s inability to cope with hearing the truth, whether it be good or bad. Just review how it is that you deliver your honesty….and if you see that perhaps your tone and attitude are issues, then you can correct them.
I wish more people would get over themselves long enough to just tell the entire truth right up front, instead of pussyfooting around all the time. It all boils down to communication skills.
Don’t give up on honesty….it’s a superior quality and trait to have!